I was so excited about what happened this afternoon!! Our family has been learning to take back our power from the world, from circumstances, from scenarios, from people, from everything! It has been so beautiful and so empowering. I will explain through the example of what happened at our home earlier today.
My husband Robbin and my daughter Zara (3) were going to go to the park this afternoon and Robbin encouraged Zara to go upstairs to get some socks because it’s cold. Zara said, “if you don’t get me socks, I won’t go to the park.” I couldn’t believe it. We so rarely speak to her or around her like that, but she had heard it before, so she kept it inside and used it right back. I had first read about teaching children about the reasons for things instead of giving them consequences for why they should do it or removing the privilege in a fantastic parenting book called Gentle Discipline. The book encourages parents to use logic and reasoning when explaining things to their children instead of just saying, “because I said so,” or “if you don’t do this, you won’t get this,” for example. Very rarely, I have said to Zara, “okay, well I’ve explained that it’s cold out, so if you’re not going to wear your coat, we won’t go,” (which I totally support when necessary!) and she used it right back at us this afternoon. After Zara said that, Robbin and I looked at each other, wondering what to say and then out of my mouth came,
“Well Zara, instead of making this about Daddy, why don’t you decide what you want to do. If you want to go to the park, go get your socks. If you don’t want to go to the park, then don’t, it’s okay either way, but by making it so Daddy has to go get the socks, you’ve given up your power to Daddy going to get them, so do what you want to do instead.”
It was beautiful. Zara heard me, she left the room, went up the stairs and got her socks and was jumping up and down with excitement to go to the park!!
We can all do this, not just with our children but for ourselves! Instead of leaving our happiness up to someone else, we can stop, take back the responsibility for our own lives and live for ourselves, and voila, you’ve taken back your power from the world and the circumstances you find yourself in. I am so grateful for this journey of reclaiming my life and actually living my life instead of being a victim to my life and all its circumstances!